I hear you. T took away reassuring me, took away "always replying to emails after I move"... I'm always afraid she'll take away more things.

Especially since she always said she won't take away things because she knows it hurts, and that I'd taken pains to check that she's really OK with XYZ hoping to ensure she wouldn't take them away...

I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. While we know they need to unplug and rest etc, it hurts that people in her personal life don't have these limits...