Guess I never really updated this thread...the whole transitional object saga with my T did not end well and led to a rupture and me wondering if I should just leave...(I also gave the stone back, through my choice, which made me very sad). We spent a few sessions talking about it, and, while I still feel hurt by some of what he said, we seem to have worked through things and are OK again. I can post a more detailed update (or link to posts where the updates are, whichever), if anyone is interested.