well since you asked the question......since your husband is working on his anger, it must have crossed your mind that getting away from a person for a while is a way to control anger. Better to go to another room than to lose it. I dont really get how going into another room to sleep for a few months is force. Unless he said im leaving until you see it my way. If he is not sleeping with you because of disagreements over how to best treat HIS depression, i dont see the disrespect. He may very well feel that you are trying to control him by setting conditions on his return and his attempts to control his anger and depression. These are thoughts that i had and since i obviously dont live it as you do i may be off the mark. It may be your writing style or as a result of being exasperated by having lived with these problems for so long, but you do seem stern to me. People are married but that doesnt mean that they are owned. I can only speak for myself but if i were faced with having to fulfill conditions and apologies it would feel like surrender to me rather than conciliation and i would be looking for a nice comfortable mattress topper for my new bed.