(((LT))) Thanks for sharing that, i get that it wasnt easy to write. Sounds like your friend has her own issues with abusive relationships - are they ever really completely resolved for anyone? Plus, i like the way you talked things over with this t, instead of just demanding an apology like with ex-MC.

I dont understand apologies. If something is SO egregious that i would demand an apology? I would be long gone before that would ever happen. I would ACCEPT an apology, but i cant see demanding one. Isnt that like wrestling and making them say "uncle"? It seems like its playing an abuse game.

Anyway, my point is, and i do have one, that i think its safer to play this game with a t, so you can call each other on it. As you did. Which i think your friend doesnt realize. Instead of denying the issue exists, or searching for a "perfect" t that doesnt bring up uncomfortable feelings, cuz thats not so perfect, really.