My daughter is 25 years old. She is attending college away from home, and is a single mom of an almost 4 year old daughter. She is doing really well--something like a 3.8 GPA. She is getting ready to start her final 1 1/2 years.

I recently moved out of the home I shared with my husband. I had very good reasons (too much to go into here, but let's just say I was VERY lonely).

As I expected, my daughter did not react well to my departure. I have now been blamed for everything thing crappy that happened in her life. Her diatribe was filled with hate for me. Some are true, some aren't (as with anything, there are two sides to the story). I am a recovering alcoholic (got sober in March) and she feels that I neglected our relationship for the past 10 years. That is true. I explained to her, however, that I cannot change the past, I can only do better in the future. After her lengthy diatribes, I stopped it by telling her that I am focusing on my own happiness (for once in my life) and all this was not to be part of it.

We are now not on speaking terms, since Mother's Day week. I asked for the key to my new apartment back (I has just moved the week before...I should never have given it to her in the first place, it was a stupid impulse), and she mailed it to me without my name on it (was this some subliminal jab?).

I pay her day care every two weeks, and I sent the check promptly on 29 May week. She cashed it (surprise!) but I haven't heard anything at all from her, didn't really expect to, honestly.

Should I just ride this out? Should I write some sort of apology email? Should I do something else? I don't know what to do, really. She never really called me before, she's been out of the house now for 7 years, unless it was some sort of emergency (usually money). I don't really know where I'm going with this. I just thought I'd try to ask someone else outside of the situation what is going on here.