As I've written before I suffered a great deal of abuse in my FOO. I'm married now and I have an abusive sister-in-law who pushes all my buttons. And when I finally stopped letting her get to me, she turned to manipulating my DH (her brother).

She wants to see us all the time. She wants all our social time to be spent with her and she wants to know everything we do. She asks all sorts of inappropriate personal questions and will have a fit if you refuse to answer them. I swear, if she could steal a key to my house, she'd do it in heartbeat. But we have healthy boundaries, so Nope to all that.

She doesn't respect our boundaries. Her famous line is "You're not meeting the needs of this family" or "You're not fulfilling your duty to our family." What she really means is, we're not meeting HER needs, which is to be around us 24-7. I just ignore her, so she stopped contacting me. But she'll still call my husband and rip him a new one, telling him the whole family agrees with her (which is another typical lie of hers that she uses to manipulate people, she pretends that people are "on her side" when they have no idea what she's talking about). DH doesn't give in. This is all just pushing him further away from her.

My question is, how would you respond to a guilt trip like that? If someone said You're not good to your family, you don't care about your family, you don't do enough with or for your family, how would you respond?