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Originally Posted by CantExplain
The therapists described how trying more actively to wrest back control led to “fruitless battles”, and the process terminated with the therapist in an emotional state, overwhelmed by the client’s energy.
There was a lot of this between me and Madame T.
It would appear that the Ts failed to see that this wasn't working and failed to switch to a less controlling strategy.
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I can relate to this, particularly to the T’s failing to see that their controlling strategy wasn’t working.. and to “fruitless battles”
The therapist maybe became overwhelmed.. certainly not functioning at their “best” (why so many unhelpful, useless “interpretations”
)
I also had “good” defences when I first went to therapy, I was labelled “intelligent” etc by the shrink. He actually took quite an “accurate history” in
one appointment (unlike a GP
). I would imagine he was experienced enough to know he couldn’t “get it all out” of the “patient” in one appointment ...
There was some progress and apparent attunement in therapy in 2 to 3 years.
But then.... not so much, a “bad fit” between “patient and therapist” to put it politely.
My experience and feelings were discounted. How the therapist felt was “more important” ...