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Old Jun 07, 2018, 11:02 AM
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Originally Posted by LaraR4444 View Post
With me, it didn't make me want to talk. I answered someone's question with something important, clearly felt like what I said warranted and needed a response, and they said absolutely nothing. I imagine that ends the conversation for virtually everyone. If it was supposed to inspire me to talk more, it wasn't working, so clearly not effective for me or that stage of our relationship. Maybe if they just wanted to see if I would clam up or get scared, that worked. I've spent years wondering if something was terribly wrong with me.
For me, if the therapist had proved to be trustworthy in other areas, which they didn’t, this .....

I did wonder too if he was wanting to see if I clammed up or got scared. Also it wasn’t a good way, with me, to get to the meaty bit (his term. Meat)

I do feel that silence isn’t necessarily hostile. Some words, however can be.

I do think my family of origin was manipulative.
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