I wasn't aware of trying to say that it was the clients fault for being too shiny. Although, maybe that came through somehow? I have a very dark side, that I can hide by by my brightness? Not sure I was really aware of it, but maybe I had found that it worked, in childhood not in therapy per se. But once it was there, it was a pattern that I used in the "outside world", even as I accepted that there was something different "down deep", and I tried very hard to see it, etc. I probably have done that now -- but nobody can stand me when I am in my "dark self"! I guess I see that as therapists' fault. Maybe it's like you don't want surgeons who faint at the sight of blood or something? I can't help the issues that I came into therapy with, any more than I could help by the ways I already had when I came into therapy. So shoot me, why don't you?

I can't stand me much, either, when I'm in that state. And, having tried to deal with it in therapy and failed, I pretty much keep it turned off. Sometimes I allow some bits and pieces out -- there is some in the post that you just responded to. And I had actually signed back on to edit that post and maybe eliminate it.

Thanks for asking.