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Old Jun 07, 2018, 05:22 PM
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Originally Posted by missbella View Post
I agree with you HT, that if this half-client creature exists, she needs serious understanding.

But I question the study's assumption that the failed client did so because she hid her weaknesses from the therapist.* Who goes to therapy to convince the therapist how strong she is? Isn't the point of therapy to talk about problems? I do feel it's impossible for a therapist to know much about the client's life, only experiencing her in one very specific setting. The rest of the picture is created by the client's description.

*That said, my therapists seemingly wanted to believe their magic worked and either denied some of my problems or painted a rosy interpretation to them. They were the ones who backed away.
I hid my weaknesses from myself, mostly in order to hide them from anybody in my family rather than my own ego, I think. I numbed out and there was no emotion to see even in my face, so there would be no criticism or punishment. "I", a child's reaction, put part of myself in a dungeon and threw away the key -- that's something I could have said, or tried to say, to therapists years ago. That's all I knew -- not what was in the dungeon because I didn't/couldn't know at that point.
Thanks for this!
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