Okay... but now i am telling you why your t is doing that. This is the moment of the baby chick hatching from its shell. A human observer might be tempted to help the chick by poking thru the shell, but that dooms the chick. The chick builds the strength it needs to survive by doing ALL the work itself.

Would it help if your t told you that? What exactly would you want your t to say at that point? Why does it seem like - pardon the expression - a game of chicken? I hate that it seems that so many therapies get derailed at this point.