It was a struggle my ex-H had. We were both computer design engineers. Obviously he didn't have the skills for a management position. When he maxed out in his technical promotions he BLAMED company politics on his problems & definitely took no responsibility for it himself. Problem was I wasn't the nieve wife because I worked in the same industry & even same company so I KNEW what was really going on. Didn't realize he was on the spectrum at the time but it made sense when I realized that & a lot of other authority issues he had made sense too. That was actually years before Asperger's was even diagnosed in the US. I definitely saw the problem in both my ex -H & in my own Dad. It would be nice to have a strategy to help. It is obvious from my experience that confronting with the reality didn't work which not knowing what I was dealung with was my strategy which only created a fighting environment not conducive to either person.