Same. I'm coming up for 10 years too. I think it has been very helpful in lots of areas but it has also been a very painful process and I'm not convinced that the level of pain and suffering was really needed to achieve the end goal. Boundaries are rigid (for who's sake? Not mine.), and getting a small amount of additional support, which I desperately needed, took 9 months to negotiate. The whole thing feels very deceptive to me... either I've completely misunderstood what a therapy relationship should be or I have been encouraged to foster a dependency on someone who could have never met my needs in the first place and who has actually been pretty inconsistent and flaky with his idea of 'care' anyway.

Therapists who remain rigid in their beliefs and behaviours (in opposition to what the client is telling them/asking them) are, on some level pushing their clients away, so it's no wonder they leave.