When therapists tried to put me off therapy. I was told I’d made no significant change. I was told that some people are beyond help. I find both of those comments offensive, particularly the latter. I could be dying, and no therapist would want to help me? I find that very sad and very scary

I didn’t mess around in therapy. I was honest but I was brutalised for my honesty. I wish I’d kept my walls up

I was talking about a book, with a picture of a little boy on the cover. The therapist snarled at me and looked bored.
He had encouraged me to bring my young hurt part(s) in, and now this, wtf.
When I challenged him on some of his mean comments, usually in the next session, he said I was taking things out of context.

I don’t know if I could trust a therapist again. It would probably take at least 10
years to start to improve (for want of a better word). And this therapist gave up on me after less than 8 years. His trying to be kind hadn’t created significant change (in his opinion) and his bullying tactics and aggressive changing of boundaries hadn’t created significant change. Not surprising, I didn’t pay to be bullied and have mean words flung at me.

ETA no one in the family of origin cared about me or even saw me.

Maybe my expectations of therapy were and are unreasonable?