I think "dealing with it" doesn't make a claim one way or another about its rightness. It is important because it's the only way we can look at things; if we have our view different from others, we do need to fix it for some things, get to understanding how others see it or how it is set up to be, etc. But having seen it our way, it's possible we can help others understand it better overall. I'm notorious among friends and family for seeing things in an "odd" fashion but once people see what I see and how I understand things they are often amused, delighted, etc. It helps that I can also see things the way most people see it. I use to be unhappy because I was odd-woman-out most of the time, I'd say some pretty bizarre things sometimes because what I understood and what was actually happening didn't match.

No one else has the same experience you have except in a general sense. "Mother dying" will mean different things to different people so what one feels is never wrong but people who laugh at "mother dying" are not going to be in the majority and if they can't explain why they are laughing, what they see that is so funny to them, the combination (of laughter and not explaining) is going to make them look like they may be having a problem? Their reaction is not expected by most people.

I think that's what T's are good at, letting us know that our reactions and responses make sense, not just to us but to someone else. Seeing that we have made sense all along, that what we use to see as strange or weird or different isn't so given our backgrounds and stories.