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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Is she looking for a group for other people with chronic pain? I'd think that could possibly be helpful for you. I think your T really cares and might feel she's not sure how to help you with the struggles with pain.
Also, you may want to try seeing if there are any Tai Chi or Qi Gong classes around you (they're somewhat similar)--I've been taking Qi Gong, and in my last class, the instructor said a couple of the exercises she was showing us were good for sciatica. Though I forget if you're getting physical therapy or seeing a chiropractor--if that's the case, they may not want you doing outside exercises.
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Thank you. The group T found is DBT which I've taken before, but this group is in a hospital, though it's outpatient. I'm having an evaluation first to see if it's appropriate for me. I used up my allowed PT sessions so not sure what I should do. I tried to do some of the exercises and they made me worse.
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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
((((((( rainbow )))))))
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Thanks, Fuzzy.
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Originally Posted by coolibrarian
I had wanted "more" from my T for a long time, but couldn't tell her what "more" would look like. After I finished my MFA and my book was published, T told me she was proud of me, and THAT turned out to be my "more!" It cemented the fact that she does think of me outside of my sessions. I gave her the first copy of my book, and I thanked her in the acknowledgements.
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That's so exciting that you wrote a book and got it published! I understand her saying she's proud of you satisfied your wanting more!
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Originally Posted by circlesincircles
I thanked my therapist in the acknowledgments in my book too. I asked if she was ok with me gifting her a copy. She told me she had already bought it, which meant the world to me.
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You wrote a book too? I'm jealous! I always wanted to do it but never did.
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Originally Posted by circlesincircles
I go through cycles of wanting more from my therapist and accepting the relationship for what it is. It's helped at times to remember the cyclical nature of the longing when it's especially strong. Also having my therapist normalize and welcome my longing as healthy attachment striving - along with acknowledging that she can't meet those needs for me.
She also gently directs me around how to meet my own needs. I still struggle with wanting her to meet them, but it feels ok to try to team up, so to speak, to meet my needs together.
Sending warm thoughts ❤️
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Thank you. Your T sounds like mine. Yes, the longing comes and goes. I have a close relationship with my T, and she that's okay. I can finally say"I love you" to her directly. I usually feel good with her and that's enough.
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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
Sorry about your continued challenges, rainbow  A support group of others struggling with similar physical issues and/or depression might not be a bad idea, it can be very helpful to talk with people who know exactly what you are going through because they are just experiencing or have experienced the same. Maybe you could also find some new friends among them? I met one of my best friends in a mental health-related peer support group and it's currently one of the personal relationships that I appreciate the most, I think it is for both of us. |
Thank you. I don't know yet what the people in the group will be struggling with, but I wish it weren't DBT again. Not that I can't use a review! This is the only group covered by my insurance, T said.
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Originally Posted by mcl6136
I think we CAN help by sending excellent thought forms your way (wow, I'm doing way too much of this woo-woo work with my T but you get the point).
Also, you may just find that the group is a good place to be able to air some of your issues with people dealing with very similar things.
Mainly, I want to tell you that you come across as searingly honest and I wish you the best in your search for those who CAN help!
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Thank you very much, mcl. I hope there will be people dealing with pain in the group. Otherwise I'm going to look for a different class. There may be something online.