I am asking because I am more kinky than not, but if I have a partner who is strictly vanilla, AKA someone who is not into kink/BDSM, how would I "spice things up" if I wanted to venture into a sensuality boutique? I know it's obvious to just ask my partner, but I'm also curious as to what people who aren't involved with kink do to spice things up, what do they mean by that, to spice things up when you're not primarily into kink?

And I know it's different for everyone...I'm more kinky than not, but again, there's a lot of things I wouldn't try on both sides. So I'm not sure if my question is too generalized, so that's why I'm asking YOU, but if it's too personal, I guess an input of general knowledge would be sufficient.