It is very difficult - impossible - for me to comment on your sister's behavior without knowing her. Knowing her style. For some people "thoughts and prayers" means a lot. They intend it very seriously.

It sounds like you and your sister would do well to sit down and communicate with each other. I hate talking on the phone myself, it makes me feel anxious because there can be SO many misunderstandings. I would be much more comfortable with emailing someone...I would be able to truly express my thoughts.

Aside from your sister, I am so sorry to know that you are going through the imminent loss of your boyfriend. I know this has been a very long road for you, Rose. I truly wish you peace at every turn.