how odd.. we talked about this just today. Mine swears.. i swear.. we're cool with it. He swears spontaneously when it is "right" if that makes sense. We don't swear a lot, but one of us will pretty much every session, yeah. i won't repeat the phrase as it prolly would offend some... but it didn't offend me. He was making a point and as an illustraion of it, he used this swear phrase... and he said "i know i can say that with you and you won't be offended, you're one of only two that i'd say that with... and i think in fact, that you'd rather i swore occasionally to make me more 'real'." He's right, i would.

i replied to him that what i prefer is that he be who he is, period. If that includes swearing or not, so be it. How can i feel i can be myself if he can't be his? My biggest challenge in therapy is to learn that it's ok to be who i really am.

it was hard to let him finish his point.. the swear phrase caught me off guard and i was laughing too hard to really let him talk... so, i suppose me laughing got in the way?

i can see swaering being triggery for people.. and swearing in anger (by the T i mean) can't be so good i think.