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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Problem solving helps me too.... and yes, changing your mood somehow through whatever means that works best.
From the article:
"Some ruminators may simply have more stress in their lives which preoccupies them.....for others, it may be an issue of cognition. Some people prone to ruminate have basic problems pushing things out of consciousness once they get there."
So, perhaps a key is to reduce stress somehow, too.... and yes, like you said, be careful not to pile too much on at once, and to protect yourself emotionally.
Good to know when you're own responses are PTSD or GAD related.... same here.
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Yeah, but it doesn't help control much. Just had an interaction with someone that I probably could have waited to respond on. I don't think I was out of line, and I asked another person and they were like, no, you were fine. But I know this person is a tiny bit upset with me.
They asked me to review something, and I did, and I asked a whole bunch of questions so I could give them feedback. Well, after they answered my questions, before I had actually sent it back with any feedback, they sent it to the higher ups saying I had signed off on it.
To which I had to respond, I'm sorry, to clarify, I have not signed off on this.
She then said I threw her under the bus...and I'm like, well, I sort of feel like you did that to me, saying I had signed off on it, when I hadn't. I had multiple suggestions for how to do this (especially considering it's actually my job not her job, I don't even know why she is writing this letter).
Then she sort of backed off and said she didn't mean it that way and that she would take more feedback from me, of course. And I'm like, I think I was perfectly within normal reactions to clarify that I did not sign off on something yet. All you have to do is say "I misspoke, she is still reviewing but we did discuss her questions." Rather than say I threw her under the bus? It's not like I was blaming her for anything. Just clarifying my stance.
But she wanted to clarify herself that she misspoke rather than me chime up for myself.
Whatever, it's my name. I will speak for it to protect it.
So, anyways, this is part of my issue when I'm like this. I can't calm down from responding to things. I can't take time to process because I'm already on overload. Hence why I would prefer to take time off entirely.
So..at this point, I'm not responding to any emails or communication that's not related to specific deadlines. Everything else will have to wait.
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