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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Oh boy, do I hear you on that one.
My therapist taught me that when I am in that state, to pause & wait a few minutes before replying... if it's time sensitive, just taking a few moments to collect myself before responding, and then re-read the response before sending....... which I am sure you did. Or, like you said, just simply putting it on the back burner entirely.
It sounds like you are fine though and responded appropriately to the situation. When someone tells you that you threw them under the bus, you have the right to defend yourself.
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Well throwing someone under the bus is blaming your mistake on them. I didn't do that. I just clarified that I did not sign off on the letter she wrote. Pointing out the truth is not throwing someone under the bus.
From Wikipedia:
To throw (someone) under the bus" is an idiomatic phrase in American English meaning to betray a friend or ally for selfish reasons. It is typically used to describe a self-defensive disavowal and severance of a previously-friendly relationship when the relation becomes controversial or unpopular.
I didn't betray her by stating the truth. To betray would have been if we had come to an agreement and then I lied and said I didn't agree with it. But I didn't lie at all. She misrepresented my questions as signing off, and nowhere in the conversation did I say, okay go ahead or anything of that sort. In fact, in the emails, all I do is ask for clarification so I can actually review it. So I had not even reviewed it when she sent it off.
I am not sure why she feels it needs to happen this second after we finished this very stressful even this weekend, but she hasn't given me any kind of timeline, and I said I would review it for her, and that takes more than 5 minutes. Especially when it's not well done.
Ug. I did not throw her under the bus. She's just claiming that because she misrepresented the truth and it got noticed.
You know, she also knows I'm very stressed right now and in a lot of pain because of my back, so I'd think maybe she'd think twice before thinking I was doing anything malicious towards her. My only point was to clarify that I had not given any input on what they were reviewing.
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