If I sit and think about the theme in all my flashbacks and deep hurts, SAME THEME too golden_eye. Sadly, it's that way for a lot of people which is why so many struggle with trusting and relationships, be it with parents, friends, or a significant other or a coworker or boss or even a sibling.

When you had advised something in a job, "don't do that" you finally saw that you were right when a boss did not listen or respect your input. You learned you were right but the reality is no one will say that to you because these kind of people don't even KNOW how to respect even when someone is most worthy of respect.

It's sad that a person can have so much of this disrespect that they actually have to pay for someone to actually listen and show them respect via what we label "therapists". And even then there is no guarantee a person will get true consideration and respect but may even end up being misdiagnosed.

Yes, I believe you do ruminate as I have myself and the core of the challenge is most of the time "lack of respect" even when you deserved to be respected.