She probably is a prick for not realizing everyone isn't safe for therapy. A quick look in on her material would have made it more conducive, at least not the say that to you. To write the wrong with that alter just educate it on why this happens espeically if there is history on what was happening.. Sometimes you just cant wait no one has such expertise on what not to intersect mess phase aside. I'd use the same alter to have a similar message if you can keep it hopeful that oh yea I belong here for this reason if not really using name but some other thing to get it present in therapy just track its history at one time not knowing is just that not really anyone's, fault necessarily