Thanks Starfishing. That's really cool that you're doing psychoanalysis. I can easily imagine how his training/orientation is a big help for this stuff. My experience has been so many Ts just... get caught up in the counter-transference (I think?) and end up feeling personally *bad*, when really it doesn't have a lot to do with them, and we'd both do better if they could identify it for what it is and deal with it, rather than react. (I had a T who was a lovely, kind woman... but cried in session one day, as she told me that she *knows* she's a good T, but apparently couldn't understand why she wasn't able to help me? It made me feel so sad!)

tomatenoir - Thanks! It IS helpful to hear about your experience, and the type of therapy that your T does. Again, I can only imagine (with some slight jealousy!) what it's like!

It's weird to me, because I don't think my current T is stupid. She may actually be smarter than some of the previous ones (she does like to throw the word "perseverate" around, which makes me gleeful, even though it's not a very flattering description of me!) But, sometimes... I point out something, and she seems surprised and hadn't thought of it, but it seems so obvious to me. Like how, with something that I went through with my last T, it was ironic and painful that my issue specifically had to do with not having a voice, and my T cut me off and wouldn't let me talk about it!

I wish there was more research into this stuff (for grown-up "gifted" kids), because it does feel like there's something there... but what do I know?

tomatenoir and Starfishing - how did you guys find your Ts? And, did you know immediately that they were going to be more helpful than previous Ts, was it obvious early on?

Thanks!