That wouldn't work for me. Hope it does for you. My T has gotten info & clarifications from insiders the system as a whole did not have. I have two who would rather talk to him then anyone inside! They say he doesn't get 'upset'. Early in therapy, before dx, he even played games with the younger ones who held the memories. He made them feel safe from abusers at his office. Safe enough to let us know they existed & the nature of the abuse. We didn't know we were DID. We went for another issue which wasn't improving. He has also seen relationships between issues across alters we never would have figured out. Our one rule: no secrets. He tells the system or host whatever he's told. He adds his judgement & expertise. As I often comment...we are the only system we have ever known. He has worked successfully with many, many systems. Let us know how it goes.








QUOTE=ruh roh;6148523]My therapist has said she only wants me to be the therapy person, that others are welcome but that I have to speak for them. I said fine, it's all me anyway, so let's just forget the DID. She said it doesn't work that way, but the way she wants to go about it--which she said is different than say, 20 years ago when she did interact with clients' alters--is supposed to make the process go more quickly. All it does, though, is hurt.


We keep going over it and she keeps saying she's not denying anyone or not allowing them in therapy, but then she follows that by saying it has to be a team where I am leading and speaking for everyone.

I understand the approach, but it is hurtful. I am wondering if others in therapy have a therapist who takes this approach? She says it's a more recent thing, that while it's not fast, it's a bit faster. It feels kind of damaging inside, but I don't have another choice except to leave therapy, which at this stage is like exiting surgery in the middle of a procedure. She has accused me of sabotaging therapy, but this seems like a much more sure fire way to force an end.[/QUOTE]