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Old Jun 12, 2018, 07:03 AM
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I'm having serious doubts about continuing the relationship again. For some reason, my gut feeling is telling me to let him go to allow him to find a woman whose family will accept him. My family will never accept him because they think I can't handle even taking care of myself. They are also mean and unable to deal with the fact that I like other people besides them. It is ok. I don't want him to deal with my family or lack of family. I may just let him go. I have the feeling that once he realizes my family will never accept him, he will be mean to me because I believe he is looking for a woman and family to accept him. He is not a bad man but once he realizes that I'm all alone with him he may change his attitude towards me. I feel bad about this whole situation. I knew my family would never accept anybody I like. Thus, I feel if I like him enough to let him go to find someone whose family will accept him. It is the right thing to do given he does not have much family either. I like him but not enough to leave my own family behind. I love my family because they are all that I have. They are dysfunctional but they took me back after I was homeless and after my divorce to someone they never accepted and who was abusive towards me. They stood by me throughout my hospitalizations. I'm worried about this man because he believes mental illness can be fixed by going on vacation and taking it easy. He does not have the slightest idea of how painful it is to have a mental illness. He thinks I have a slight problem being mentally ill. Little does he know that it is a big problem as it is for others. As a result, I feel he won't understand me and my problems. I think he is a nice man but his lack of understanding into my issues and my family's lack of acceptance of him are enough to think about letting him go to find someone whose family will accept him and allow him to be part of another family. I know if I were in his situation I would do this for me too. I feel nobody will be good enough for my family to accept and nobody will truly understand my needs. These are my issues I must face. I rather be alone and free and not worry about another person's feelings and treatment of me. I am leaning towards remaining alone and just dating occasionally for fun but nothing too serious. I wished it would have worked out with him. He has been the most decent towards me of all the men I have dated. But, I realize I can't change my family's attitude and his lack of understanding about mental illness. I am ok and will survive as usual. I was married to another mentally ill person who was severely paranoid and abusive. I liked him initially because he had a nice family unlike mine. But,his family turned against me when things went wrong and they blamed me for not taking care of him etc. I couldn't take care of him and myself and do a full-time job so it ended in divorce. I am happy to have divorced. I don't want to marry and divorce again though. It is too much trauma and sadness on top of all the stress. I will cut this short and let this man go. It is the best I can do for him given that I like him. I wish him well and hope he finds that special woman with an accepting family.