Hi, I realise this is controversial but I need to air out my feelings.

We, my boyfriend and I, have been invited to a grandson's graduation ceremony. I feel extremely uncomfortable and reluctant to attend. You see, it is held in a church and they are conducting Mass. I have problems with church and most definitely have ill feelings when it comes to religion mixing with education. It rather gets me riled up as I believe one has no place with the other.

I can't not attend however. I understand the importance of this to the family. But I am feeling anxious about Mass. I won't go up to the altar to participate. This makes me feel uncomfortable as I will be singling myself out and may offend persons attending including family members. But I absolutely would not 'pretend' and participate. I know it would be wrong. I know it would be a sacrilege.