This is not normal joking between a mother and a daughter. This actually is disturbing that your mother thought that it was acceptable to say those things to you. This sounds degrading. The fact that you still remember this experience to this day, shows that it has a long lasting effect on you. Have you tried approaching her about this? Maybe telling her how that made and still makes you feel will help you overcome this. I am so glad you do not speak like this with your daughter.