I completely disagree with article insisting to always call in case of death or illness. its cookie cutter approach. I think everyone grieves different and needs condolences expressed in different ways. I know people who didn’t want to talk on the phone while grieving.

When my son in law died I didn’t want to be on the phone at all. Email or text suffice. My mother is very ill. I have no desiree to talk about her illness much but I appreciate if people text or email that they care. My good friend just lost her father and the last thing she wanted is people calling. But she glad for texts and emails.

It’s clear, Rose, that you prefer phone calls and in case with sister it’s likely
more appropriate. But we can’t be sure that’s always the best approach with everyone.

Sorry that you are dealing with all this. Hang in there