It's odd you ask that. I found my therapist by googling [my area] therapy. I felt absolutely no connection to most ads I read.

But I felt an immediately strong connection to what my therapist had written on his website - - it made no assumptions at all (no "We all feel sad at times."), and everything he'd written was so calm and measured. It also struck me that his website was the opposite to the marketing stuff I work all day long at.

His picture was him squinting into the sun, the first page spoke about the ample parking outside his office. There was a picture of berries for no reason. Then, at the bottom of one of the pages, against the backdrop of carefully chosen words, there was a mention of how he found Jung's ideas useful when working. I remember thinking, "Who the f*** is this guy?"

He didn't have any spots when I first called him. I called him six weeks later to ask him if anything had opened up. He told me no and said perhaps I should look for someone else. I was actually confused - - I felt very strongly that this person had the ability to help me.

A couple weeks later he texted me to ask if Wednesday evenings worked for me. I am really happy he did.

But I think part of my success is that after a while with him, I felt OK enough to put my brain away. I intellectualized a lot the first couple months, but he didn't get sucked into that - - he realised emotions are where I struggle, and has taken a lot of pains to steer sessions away from my strengths (intellectualizing).

He has his faults (he's a bit rigid sometimes) but I feel like I'm working with someone who really knows what he's doing. I got very, very lucky.

I'm enjoying all the posts here.