Back years ago I called up some telephone astrologer/psychics. I don't believe in any of that stuff. I just needed some feedback and these kind of people can be astute. This was over my same sister being greedy when my parents passed away. A psychic told me her behavior shocked me because I had her on a high pedestal that she fell from. (She participated in our other sister getting disinherited, which I thought was her being a real creep. This was beyond what I ever expected one sibling in our family to do to another.)

That was when I felt I had lost a sister. But I thought all that had gotten smoothed over and that things were back to normal now. She gave the disinherited sister a decent amount of my parents' estate. That seemed to fix things, but what had been done was awfully callous IMO. So she has a demonstrated capacity for callousness. I guess I have to remember that. As Seekerseeking said early in this thread, this may be within the demonstrated "realm" of her behavior.

I seem to have trouble accepting the reality of who and what she may be. Another factor is that she tends to be influenced by a husband who has values very different from mine. She is responsible for her own behavior, but that might explain some inconsistency in her character.