Oh yeah old fashioned guilting. My parents guilted us over similar things in life.

My dad recently got mad that neither me nor my brother want to take over their house or ever live there. They refuse to downsize because they want us to live there when they pass. My parents don’t need us to live there now, just to make sure we live there later.

We have no desire to ever live there. We have our own families and we don’t like neither their house nor the area. It’s not family home or anything. They bought it when we were in our mid 30s having our own families so we have no connection to that house!

Both me and my brother would be more than willing to take our parents to live with either one of us when they become unable to take care of themselves. But that is not what my dad wants. He wants to die there and us to live there. We can’t stand that house!

You are a grown woman. As long as you don’t neglect your family, they have no rights to force you. But I totally understand guilting