I'm glad you replied.I hadn't even thought about that.That's very true,they're obviously aware of what they're saying and that it's unacceptable since they apologize for it.It's not like they're blacking out and then I have to tell them what they said and then they apologize.

And it's not that they drink regularly because they really only drink during social gatherings a few times per year.It's that when there are gatherings and they drink too much they ruin the fun for everyone with the way they talk.The night ends early because who wants to be around or go out in public with someone saying those things.Even if they didn't act on it there would be problems if other people heard,fights would probably get started,etc.So if everyone comes to my house or we meet somewhere and make plans to go out somewhere and that crap starts coming out of their mouth everyone leaves or decides to just stay put at my house instead.

I was making plans for a fun night recently and a person said they will get together but not if this person is going to be drinking.