I send emails to my T about therapy content. Sometimes once a week or so, sometimes less. Kinda depends on what's going on. If I'm really angry, I usually go straight to a phone call, though.

Personally I have found email helpful for getting things out efficiently and in exactly the way I want to say them. I don't know if other clients email my T, but I don't really care. I know she's okay with my email patterns, and we both know why I do it, so it doesn't really matter to me what other people do.

Occasionally when I have felt self-conscious about being so vulnerable and needing contact with her, she has said that other clients who don't express those needs can sometimes be challenging to work with because there can feel like a wall between them that prevents a more authentic connection. So I don't think there is a "perfect" way to be a client, and I think you can cause yourself a lot of unnecessary pain by trying. All you can do is be yourself and keep working through the things that brought you to therapy in the first place.