Yeah, I would agree that this is definitely not a random sample of therapy clients. People here are probably more comfortable than average expressing themselves in writing and also have or had a longer/more intense/more affecting (in a good way or a bad way) experience in therapy.

I will say that my wife, who mostly talks about present-day work and family stuff in therapy and doesn't have attachment or trauma issues, doesn't contact her therapist for anything except scheduling. But I can tell that occasionally she's a little jealous about my ability to contact my T when something stressful is going down in our lives. So just because people don't do it doesn't mean that they wouldn't like the option. My outside contact started out of pure necessity and now it has become a therapeutic tool, but I don't think everybody hits that low point the way I did.