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Originally Posted by bellbellbell
I do email my T and have emailed previous T's without an issue. T has said it's perfectly okay. I always say in the email if I want a response or not. It is a way for me to be real and let T know what I'm thinking or feeling, otherwise we wouldn't get a lot accomplished in therapy because I am prone to shutting down and hiding. And while I have not sent my current T an angry email, I have before with other T's and I understand your need to do that. I certainly don't think you're odd for doing so.
I agree that you need to have a discussion with him about it. My T has clearly laid out for me that my emailing her is okay. Maybe clarify with him and see what he says. I'm surprised that he mentioned other clients do not email him though. I wonder why he would tell you that? From what you said, though, it does sound like he is okay with you emailing and has outlined his policy of not responding on the weekend. Shows he has thought about the issue and has a plan in place.
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I should clarify that he didn’t just tell me out of the blue that others don’t email him. I specifically asked, and so he answered. I was just shocked that his other clients don’t email. How could that be? It just made me feel so needy and in real life I’m the opposite of that. He didn’t make me feel bad about it at all. In fact he said something about how he thought my needs haven’t been taken care of (or something like that) so he thought email was good since it seemed important to me. I think he said he might not allow email for everyone even if they asked. I know the eventual goal for us is to be able to process emotional content together in person, but for now, I’m better at communicating via emails.