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I use the same tactics therapist use on clients on my personal training clients to get them addicted to me as a personal trainer and it works. I have had clients for years.
#1 Rule: Make them feel they are the most important thing in the world at that moment. Everything is about them. It makes them feel good as most the time they do not get that anywhere else.
#2 Mimic their behavior and even things they like can be food, activities (not a T thing but a connection thing)
#3 Keep yourself just out of reach as they want to be your friend and go out to dinner or a movie. Keep the distance.
#4 Always look them in the eye and give as much compassion and empathy for what ever trivial mundane issue they think they have.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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