Someone who calls you "only a woman" doesn't deserve to be with one. I would first and foremost, get the heck out of there. Stay with a friend if you can. I would also seek therapy, as he's done a ton of damage to you. He took advantage of you, and you deserve better! I know it hurts since you feel like you've put a lot of effort into this relationship, but I think a therapist will help you realize that there's actually no relationship here, to respect yourself, and teach yourself how to set boundaries so that this never happens again.