My bullying therapists left me believing the bad relationship was my fault. It took me distance to realize their manipulation, deflection and scapegoating. It also took emotional distance to demote them and see them simply as antagonistic, incompetent people who weren't "authorities" on anything. Vicious comments are just that no matter who said them. And NO ONE can divine about our friendships they never witnessed or how the universe works, and anyone who does is a pretender. (His comments remind me of famous people who were once told "you'll never be an actor/writer/professor" etc. who proved the prognosticator wrong.)

Years from the event I was happy I kicked my therapists to the curb, only regretting I believed their guano as long as I did. Yet I likely benefited from this exercise more than less dramatic therapy, and my perspective took several turns over the years. Wishing you the best on your journey.