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Originally Posted by Shazerac
It’s hard to deal with this kind of bigotry especially in a close relationship. My husband tends to do this but over 15 years of calling him out on it he has mellowed a bit.
My mother in law, however, is totally draconian. She doesn’t even think that women should be doctors or lawyers. I call her out occasionally if she is trying to get me to agree with her, but usually I just ignore her because she’s 85 years old and I doubt I can change her.
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Both my husband and I grew up being taught racism, me more so. I think everybody of our generation has a racist grandparent. My family is more open about it. That's one reason I moved so far away. I just don't approve of those values.
I suppose I'm a little more sensitive to subtle wording and tone of voice than hubby is. And that's OK. It's just the way we're made.
Many of my birth family are still openly racist. They're the kind who wouldn't even want to live next door to a minority family, and they'll freely use actual racist slurs. If I don't like it, I get "Oh, it's just a word." In their minds, I'm an ultra-leftist, bleeding heart SJW. If they only knew how many interracial couples there are at the church I go to, including the pastor and his wife, I'm sure they'd disapprove.
Again, which is why I live 3,000 miles away now.