This is one of my all time favorite threads. The posts are so useful to me in understanding what's wrong in my relationship with my psychologist- who is a big fan of highlighting how artificial therapy is and yet worries that the space doesn't always feel safe to me. I don't quite dare send him the article , bc he will dismiss it as me trying to speak without speaking in my own voice , but it still gives me a way of grasping what the dynamic is partially. My aversion to closeness definitely stems from the idea he doesn't take the relationship seriously enough in general ( not just with me, but how he defines his work). I am brokenhearted over therapy, and can't find my T in some important sense and feel like I am drowning in the process. I don't think he understands my world/ universe.