Hello robfordeh: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I'm sorry I don't know what to tell you about this. There's an old song (back from probably the 1960's or 70's) by a group called The Lovin' Spoonful titled: "Did You Ever Have to Make Up Your Mind". Here's a link to it on YouTube. (Perhaps it will provide you with some "comic relief", as they say):

https://youtu.be/txTEhgReZUA

I realize, of course, this is a serious concern for you. The one thing I can tell you is that this situation is not likely to get any easier (unless one of these ladies unexpectedly dumps you.) That would actually, perhaps, be the best scenario here. It's not right to keep doing what you're doing. (You know that.) So, one way or another, you simply have to make up your mind. And if you can't, maybe the "fallback position" is that you end your relationships with both & spend some time trying to figure out how it is you got into this situation to begin with & what you really want out of a romantic relationship. Seeing a counselor or therapist in that regard may be of some help.

Here are links to 2 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of how to make up your mind:

https://www.bing.com/search?q=how%20...om&FORM=QBDCRD

https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-you...ing-decisions/

I wish you well...