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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
I think that secure attachment to your T might be good, to help work through early trauma, interpersonal issues, abandonment issues etc? (Or any one of these). How does a “good” therapist work with your attachment, if this is an issue with you? Also, how do you repair ruptures?
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I thought I had some sort of secure attachment to one therapist. Wasn't secure at all.
According to my reading, a securely attached child knows the caregiver will be in close proximity most of the time. That's what makes it secure. And presumably the child can sense the caregiver's innate and authentic investment. Therapy turns this on its head, putting the client thru repeated cycles of abandonment and isolation, forcing them to self-soothe, and forcing them to put their psychological health in the hands of a virtual stranger whose investment is likely tenuous. That's my view anyway. Seems to help some people, but I think it ought to be described in realistic terms that highlight what's really going on.