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Is it better to admit to our needs/weaknesses so they do not continue to hold their power over us coming out disguised as impatience and perfection?

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I think people who disguise often don't have the courage to look at and see their needs/weaknesses. That's why anxious people get controlling, to make sure things don't get out of hand. Perfectionists seem to me to have to be always doing something to keep from having a free moment when they will see something not perfect in themselves.

I think we like the strugglers because, as you say, we all struggle and they're doing it right and we can see they're trying whereas we often think of ourselves as not trying and as if it is all our own fault that we need help. We don't know how to accept help and use it and that makes us cross, impatient and angry. We feel like we should be like the heroine and able to handle needing help as well as being good strugglers.