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Old Jun 16, 2018, 07:21 AM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. No, it's not that I mean that only children can cry and feel dependent but thatīs how so much crying makes me feel personally.

The reason I think I should be able to fix things is because the things I see a therapist for are problems that most adults solve on their own. I donīt have any diagnosis besides depression which I also havenīt had for all of my adult life, just for three years or such.

Iīm nearly 40 and I sit there crying about that I donīt have a job and that I never have had a intimate relationship. I havenīt experienced any trauma like abuse which could explain this.

To look for a job and to get a job and being able to find a partner and have intimate relationships is something most people manage but obviously I donīt. (Iīm already evaluated for different psychiatric diagnosis and I have none besides depression and light anxiety).

Even if I get emotional support I donīt engage in looking for work or seeking a partner, perhaps itīs because I need more therapy first or itīs just that Iīm too afraid and lack the emotional strength to cope with adult things. I donīt have any driverīs license either, itīs another thing that makes me feel like Iīm stuck in my teenage years but in an adult body.


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Originally Posted by mcl6136 View Post
So....only children can cry/feel helpless/be dependent?
Is this really what you mean or am I taking you too literally?
Why do you think you should be able to "fix" these things and not cry?
Cry!
Wallow!
Be dependent!
Part of what we want/need/deserve from therapy is unconditional positive regard and maybe you need to cash that check and enjoy?

You won't feel or be this way forever, but maybe you just need a lot of support right now and what is really wrong with that?

Just my two cents on a Friday afternoon.
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