Totally agree, I will never agree with many of the therapy rules. It's ridiculous in my opinion, to assume ALL clients/T's are the same and need the same rules.

I think it's terribly sad they feel they can't care about you to a normal degree, they are human and if they want to or feel they care that much, they should be allowed to. Same with friendships (after therapy, I get not during)

Anyway... one of the hardest parts it the relationship (IMO because of the rules limiting everything) and trying to adjust yourself and your feelings and such compared to normal relationships.

I struggled often with "Well he only cares about me in the office" and I would test him ALOT and eventually we got to a point where I believed he did really care. Of course not to the degree that I do. He has a great support system in his life, I don't so that is why he matters more to me than me to him, none the less, I believe he cares as much as he is "Allowed" to.

In my case he has gone above and beyond in many situations, and it always helps with the care feelings. I struggled because in recent times he started ignoring emails and I felt that maybe I was to much or he didn't care etc but it's just part of the process apparently, they usually get to a point where they don't always reply. We agreed to not email anymore unless it's just a link or something.

There has been times when we discuss things about his weekend or about things from previous session and he will tell me how somehow something reminded me of him...or he went out of his way to look up some info on stuff for me or something... that always makes me feel cared for

Every therapist is different of course but I think you could ask yours if you think there is anything that could help you feel more cared about. It is a very stressful and depressing relationship often and one I'd never want to experience in my life again. Had I known how this would all go, I'd have suffered alone and skipped therapy.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me.