I’m kind of wondering why YOU didnt say NO in the first place. Same thing with the visitors with children. An explanation that you are studying for finals and need to focus on that is entirely reasonable. If the family wants to meet up and hang out maybe they could go to a park or restaurant.

Many relatives and in laws will ride roughshod over you without a second thought. They don’t take hints either. A clear unequivocal firm response of “NO! Now is not good time for [insert ridiculous request or plan here] Perhaps another time. Feel free to call me and we will discuss at a future time.”

Just as practice with assertiveness you might ask the one with the distructive children how she intends to replace the glass or pay for your coffee table. She will probably make excuses or deny that her kids did anything, or even flat out refuse, but at least she knows that you are on to her.

As far as abusing your dog. State directly to the children that it is mean and abusive to hurt an animal. Please protect your poor dog. Maybe put him/her in a crate if you have one, or put it in the bedroom or somewhere else where to poor pooch is protected.

As for the boyfriend....he is living in your dads and your house. He is technically a guest even though he is your boyfriend. It was inappropriate and even downright inconsiderate of him to bring in laws into your home while you are in the middle of finals. Please have a talk with him and make it clear that any decision to have guests over is a MUTUAL decision and NOT his alone.

Best of luck to you