I have a father but he was so horrible to me I have a hard time being around him even though he hasn't hurt me in years. He's a huge part of why I'm messed up. He's never apologized or done anything to try to make amends. I get him gifts at Christmas because my parents do for me (though if my mom died that would stop I'm sure), both my brothers do for them, and since I'm an adult I feel that's the social norm I must stick to in order to keep the peace. I don't get him anything for his birthday or father's day though. I'm only saying "happy father's day" this year because coincidentally it's laundry day so I need to go over there anyways and it might be weird for me to go there and not say it. I try to appear normal when I can.