The bolded is exactly why I dumped my first T. And he criticized me boldly for it.

I definitely concluded that it is more effective for me to figure things out on my own, using whatever information, experience, or other resource is available. A lot of it is also free. The one thing though is that my biggest issues involved stubborn sabotaging and destructive behaviors, compulsive acts. Not purely feelings, more dysfunctional acting on momentary feelings. Theoretically, I wanted to stop these on my own for a very long time but kept failing. Trying to figure it out did not help stopping/changing on its own, the analysis is also often not very effective when we are stuck in a repetitive, self-defeating cycle. I had to focus on changing the behaviors first - then figure out how to make it stuck, from a healthier, less obsessed mindset. The premise of therapy to go and talk and that eventually things will change did not work for me at all.