I like the title of your thread. I support your efforts to get your problems resolved by interacting with your therapist rather than just taking orders from him/her. Talking and working together is what therapy is about. Helping the client to resolve problems in a way they are comfortable with is good therapy. If the therapist does not understand you, I don't see how they can help you. If they have trouble communicating with you, it's just another indicator to get out.